Wrestling with an angel...

Emotional wisdom is characterized by an ability to accept people as they are, a capacity to approach things in terms of only the present, an ability to treat everyone, even close contacts, with courteous attention, an ability to trust others even when it seems risky and an ability to do without constant approval and recognition.
Warren Bennis

All reading begins in the revolt against narcissism, when a book stops reflecting your own prejudices, whether for or against what you "see in it" and begins to say something closer to what it does say; the core of the reality in the "objective" aspect of it takes shape and you start wrestling with an angel.
Northrop Frye